I have been in two serious relationships, with two very different people. My first boyfriend, lets call him Sam, would talk to me about anything, but would always think his opinions were the right ones. My second serious boyfriend, we will call him Max, was open to talking about anything as well, but would always get defensive about his opinions. Due to their attitudes, I would try and avoid difficult conversations at all costs.

We had to talk about difficult topics, big or small, in order to move our relationships and lives forward. This made me realize that there are topics that no couple should avoid in relationships. If you are going to have a future with someone there is going to be a time when you have to talk about finances. If you don’t talk about money you will never be able to predict what your future will look like. Will you be able to retire comfortably?

Religion is a very personal topic. But, it is vital to discuss this with your partner, especially if you want children. If you do want children, you need to agree on how will you raise them regarding religion. This decision can and will affect many parts of the future, which is why it is one of the most important things to discuss. Yes, this can be really awkward, but sometimes it can teach you a lot. He knew what I went through, why I was nervous to trust someone

It is so important to have deep, raw, connecting, and powerful conversations with your boyfriend or girlfriend. These conversations allow your partner to see what you are feeling at your most vulnerable points, and they can be there for you when you need it. This way you can lean on each other for support and advice, and grow closer with every new experience. When you are headed towards a serious and long term relationship, you need to be able to talk about that future.